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u/braker61 Feb 06 '23
No. I think it would really piss off my wife!
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u/Akarin_rose Feb 06 '23
Just tell her you got a new pet
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u/bibouwap Feb 06 '23
Underrated comment right here ☝
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u/Toucangenocide Feb 06 '23
It's not a house cat. It's a whorecat. They're bred for different things.
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u/GreatNameLOL69 Feb 06 '23
There’s a subtle difference between “horse shit” and “whores shit”.
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u/lynxerious Feb 06 '23
Okay, what if one day your wife steps out of the closet with a rainbow wolf fursuit
"Honey, this is the alternate me, say hello to Maxxi the Cosmic Canine."
Wwyd?
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u/Spiritual_Boot_6910 Feb 06 '23
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u/shinichiPoetry Feb 06 '23
I turned around to see
what my wife had to show,
She approached, hands gloved
and I backed away slow;
She mewed and swayed
as I got my jaw off the floor,
But I just batted away
her 'paw' and walked out the door.
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u/braker61 Feb 06 '23
Is she wearing something sexy or her beat-up bathrobe? I need more to go on here!
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u/HebrewHammer0033 Feb 06 '23
If its a cute red panda my wife would approve....I have heard her on many occasions say "I want one"
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u/Pharschnar Feb 06 '23
I already look like a big hairy bear, it’s not like I’m flooded with options.
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Feb 06 '23
I think you got more options than you realize
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u/sirseatbelt Feb 06 '23
Did you know there are between 47-53% more dateable humans out there? The real secret bisexuals don't want you to know. More at 11.
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u/WhenAllElseFail Feb 06 '23
no because im not into that
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u/Theher0not Feb 06 '23
Not even if they UwU, notices your buldge?
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u/WhenAllElseFail Feb 06 '23
lol omg stop
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u/QuarantineTitans Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23
Already have.
Was a'ight. We were able to keep a healthy barrier between the furry stuff and our own lives. It was her thing, she didn't make it an element of our dating. You wouldn't know she was super into the furry fandom if you saw us together.
A couple times, we went to a furry convention together. I had every opportunity to gracefully decline and she didn't pressure me at all, I just chose to go. Why not.
No regrets at all. She was having a great time cavorting around and being a goofy Digimon around other similarly goofy strangers in similarly ornate costumes. Didn't matter that I wasn't getting into it like she was, I was just happy to be there and see how happy and excited she was among her people. It meant a lot to her that I was there, and seeing her in her element meant a lot to me. I also didn't feel awkward at all once I was in. First thing I noticed was a lot of regular-looking folks like me accompanying their fursuit friends, just being there to support and take in the spectacle of it all like I was.
I wouldn't go to one of these things myself. But if I had a partner...or heck even just a good friend...that wanted my company at a furry convention, I'd go. Not the worst way to spend a Saturday, I could always still mingle with artists in the merch hall or hunker down in a games room if I needed to burn time. I'm just happy to be out with friends and doing something.
But if they wanted me to put on the goat suit...naw.
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Feb 07 '23
This doesn't sound so bad. Sounds better than going to a Juggalo fest (the Gathering).
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u/CastionArt Feb 07 '23
Can I just say you're an awesome person for accompanying someone to something they enjoy and taking part in their happiness even though you're not into it? Not specifically because it was furries but just the fact you did that.
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u/mightymouse513 Feb 07 '23
Thanks for having an objective perspective!
Out of curiosity, was it anthrocon you went to?
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u/Colley619 Feb 07 '23
This is a very good example of how to live life and how to support your partners. A+
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u/Normal-Punch Feb 06 '23
idk there's levels to it
if someone just puts on cat ears and thinks it's hot then probably
if they do the full suit thing then nah, i'm not into that sorry
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u/honeycatcher Feb 06 '23
I'm old enough to know anything is possible. If the person I truly loved said they were a furry. I'd say, cool.
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u/Falron Feb 07 '23
Based answer. So many people saying they wouldn’t, cause they‘re not into it themselves but that’s not how relationships usually work. If you like someone this shouldn’t be a deterrent.
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u/j-c-s-roberts Feb 06 '23
Nope nope nope nope nope
My brother's a furry, and while I can respect that he enjoys it, those costume just creep me the frick out.
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u/The_SunDancer Feb 06 '23
Tell him not to wear it to the zoo please. I really don’t like when they do that.
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u/funtobedone Feb 06 '23
Mascots and clowns and furries are intensely creepy. I’m sure the people inside are fine, but I can’t be near them in costume.
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u/TheCheeseOnFire Feb 06 '23
light furry, probably
average furry, maybe
sexual/intimate furry, never
zoophile, no no no
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u/313802 Feb 06 '23
Zoophile is a hard no. The other levels depend on how that particular lady enjoys it.
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u/PanFurry69 Feb 06 '23
This comment section is more furry friendly than i expected of reddit
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u/iglidante Feb 06 '23
I mean, why should I shit all over a hypothetical person on the internet simply because they like something I don't also like?
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u/kmn493 Feb 06 '23
I'm confused by the replies. Do people think most furries have sex in costume? Only 20% of con-going furries even own a fursuit, and that's the sfw kind.
I've got a few furry friends, none of them have a suit and nothing was weird when I slept with 2 of them.
Honestly a lot of people here probably have a furry friend and don't even realize it. My friends weren't obvious about it and I only found out when talking about furries not being so bad or other friend that's a furry.
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u/woggywoowoo Feb 06 '23
As an active furry, YUP. almost all the suiters I know are protective of their expensive as fuck fursuits, and would not risk sex in them. It's not much different than dudes expecting a girl into cosplay to fuck in costume. No way is she letting her expensive and meticulously crafted costume near that. It's for SHOW.
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u/Redot81 Feb 06 '23
For the most part, furries are cool people. Mostly just dorks who like to dress up in costumes. So what? From what I understand, a vast majority of them don’t take it to the bedroom. Only thing I don’t understand is the “identifying” as animals or mythological creatures and telling everyone that you full-heartedly believe that you’re a different thing than human. I find that weird.
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u/Autunite Feb 06 '23
That's something called therianism/otherkin. The venn diagrams of therianism and furries intersect but not by too much. I know a lot of furries, online and irl, out of all of them, only a small handful are therians.
Ironically the place I saw them the most, were on subreddits dedicated to finding weird people to bash/hate on.
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u/or10n_sharkfin Feb 07 '23
I think this is what a lot of people who go, "ew, yiffsuits" don't realize. These fursuits can get expensive as fuck.
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u/djr41463 Feb 06 '23
Okay, I will be the brave one here and ask…. What is a furry?
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u/Karma-is-an-bitch Feb 06 '23
A furry is someone who is enthusiastic about and has a fascination in the concept, ideas, and world building of anthropomorphic animals and creatures.
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u/Starlightofnight7 Feb 07 '23
As another person said a furry is someone in particular who likes to draw/dress up or roleplay as a fictional anthropomorphic animal (basically humanlike animals)
Furries have a bad reputation because half the world confuses them with zoophiles. I do not suggest googling what zoophiles are
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u/Firetigress99 Feb 06 '23
Depends what type of furry. The overall community? Sure I wouldn't mind it may take me a bit to fully understand but it seems harmless. If it was the sexual part I wouldn't be comfortable with that
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Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23
I'm a furry and I've dated plenty of non-furries. It's not a sexual thing for me, and I'm not spending money on cons, so it's not an issue.
I like to draw art of my fursona, and occasionally peruse fursuit building tutorials because I appreciate the craftsmanship. It's just a hobby and nobody I've dated had a problem with it.
A lot of folks in here seem to think furry = kinky sexual degenerate with a fetish for mascot costumes. It makes me wonder how many furries they know who fly under their radar.
I remember my first bf (we were around 14 at the time) was one of those super "edgy gamers" who claimed he was going to commit genocide against furries. He loved my art of "cute walking animals" though.
After the 849218474th rant about them being animal fuckers, I was like, "Dude, I am literally a furry. I literally show you my furry art that I make on a regular basis."
It was a funny conversation.
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u/Mastercat12 Feb 06 '23
I only know of one furry in real life. He is a pretty explicit gay dude. That's the extent of my experience. I don't think furries are mostly sexual. But, I do remember that furry con and what happened there. The furry community definitely has a bad rap but I think the sexual elements are more common than people think it is. Not as common as pop culture makes it but common enough.
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Feb 06 '23
Honestly you probably know more than just him, the others just don't talk about it. I know I don't really.
I discuss it with my partners because I like to share my art with them. Most of my friends don't care so it doesn't get brought up.
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u/Majestic_Shopping471 Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23
No because I’m aromantic
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Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23
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u/Majestic_Shopping471 Feb 06 '23
Wdym by typo??
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u/sleepingfox307 Feb 06 '23
Aromatic = strongly scented
Aromantic = probably what you meant
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u/Majestic_Shopping471 Feb 06 '23
Yup figured that out now, I have awful spelling despite being fully English
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u/jbartlettcoys Feb 06 '23
Try deoderant
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u/Majestic_Shopping471 Feb 06 '23
That’s not how it works
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u/jbartlettcoys Feb 06 '23
Im guessing you meant aromantic then lol. That n makes a big difference
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u/Outlier25 Feb 06 '23
Nah. That just would not be comfortable for me. To each their own though. As long as you don’t hurt anyone I don’t care what you do
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u/creamysheep Feb 06 '23
It's a hobby right? My wife can do her hobby, I dont mind. As long it doesnt take over our conversations or lifestyle.
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u/Ataraxia_Hopes Feb 06 '23
I mean, I prefer personality versus appearance, and as long as they aren't in the small group to where being furry overlaps with animal abuse (you know what I'm talking about) I'd be fine with it. Then again, almost everyone - minus a few ass holes - that is a furry vehemently disagrees with those into the dreaded illegal and downright immoral shit that is into animal abuse.
Furries are typically super interesting people that adore art, and aren't "overboard" with their interests. They might go to conventions, but they seem to be similar to Comic-Con in the way that they just.. Dress up. No harm, no foul.
Now, if it overlapped into the sexual territory (i.e., tailed plugs, wanting to wear the suit while they performed sex acts, etc., etc..) I'd probably not mesh well with them, since that isn't really MY thing.
As a side note, I find most furry art super interesting to just observe. The colors, the style, the dynamic scenes. It can be absolutely gorgeous, and reminiscent to movies that I love (i.e., Robin Hood, Spirit, Fox And The Hound, etc., etc., by Disney), and I just adore that.
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u/CarterRyan Feb 06 '23
Maybe.
That may be a boring answer, but it depends on a variety of other factors.
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u/Nadir_Bane Feb 06 '23
That would be too hard for me to accept, having future arguements and difficulties in mind. Knowing she will go to conventions, want to talk to me about her experiences and what she likes. I wouldn't be interested in het furry stories, I would feel weird seein her in costume go to conventions and thinking about what she's doing there since it has such a sexual stigma.
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u/JoeMorgue Feb 06 '23
My answer is the same for ANY kink.
(Obviously assume all parties are a consenting adult and we are otherwise emotionally, sexually, and all that compatible. Shouldn't even have to say this but this is the internet...)
Rule of thumb. Kink yes, lifestyle no.
If you want to occasionally spice up the bedroom by putting on a fursuit, fine. If you have to have the fursuit on ALL THE TIME (either sexually or otherwise) then no.
And like I said this applies to ALL kinks for me. It can't be something you need all the time.
I mean let be clear I understanding liking certain types of sex, but liking it so much that you can't have sex without it is weird.
"I like it when my partner dresses up like a French Maid" versus "I ONLY like it when my partner dresses up like a French Maid." if that makes any sense.
So sure all the standard stupid shouldn't have to say them "Do what you want" ass covering clichés dutifully acknowledged so nobody has to @ me, I don't get overly specific sexual lives.
I have things I like sexually, I have turn-ons and kinks and fetishes and desires in that sense, but the greater scope of my sexuality is still a base "Sex with a willing attractive partner."
Like the idea that Olivia Wilde and Eva Greene would come up to me and go "We've decided to have sex-off over who is better in bed and you get to be the judge" and I would go "Okay but only if both of you dress up like Margret Thatcher because that's my kink and that's the only sex I like" is just... bizarre to me.
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u/Sir_Lemondrop Feb 06 '23
Is being a furry a kink though? I thought it was an all encompassing lifestyle choice, out of the bedroom included.
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u/Siaten Feb 06 '23
If it were an "all encompassing lifestyle choice" you'd see people grocery shopping in their furry outfits. Like any activity, it's a spectrum.
I suspect for most people it's a roleplay hobby like cosplay. Once in awhile they get dressed up and go to a con, or get affectionate, or just for escapism.
For the original question, it really depends on how important a hobby it is to them. The core of this question is: "will my lack of interest in furry play cause us trouble?" If they're playing twice a year at conventions it's absolutely no big deal. If it's once a month or even weekly, I'd be okay with it. Every day might be a problem for me, and if it's always when we're intimate that's also a big problem.
This question might as well be "would you date someone with a hobby that you don't share". The answer is: "it depends".
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u/Temporary_End9124 Feb 06 '23
It just refers to people who have an interest in anthropomorphic animals. There's a pretty strong sexual focus in the community, but plenty of furries don't even engage in that stuff at all. Most don't wear fursuits or anything like that. For some people it's the main component of their life and personality, for others it isn't all that important.
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u/Winterfox736 Feb 06 '23
It's a good point about the kink aspect of furries. But it's doesn't completely encompass furries in general, like op says. It considers furry as a kink and furry as a lifestyle. But it doesn't consider it as just a lifestyle. From how the culture has developed it is more like, like that, a culture. What would you feel about a relationship with someone who was a furry, but had distaste of doing anything sexual with it?
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u/ApprehensiveYou4133 Feb 06 '23
no im not into them and i find people who dress as animals regularly weird
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u/Bantam123456 Feb 06 '23
As a furry, yeah, probably. Depends on the dude, obviously, but yeah. Being a furry wouldn't be the reason I say no.
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u/matchalibrarian Feb 06 '23
Yeah, as long as they don’t participate in the sexual parts of the community. I’m partnered already, but if my partner expressed a desire to get into that kind of hobby or whatever, I wouldn’t drop them for it.
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u/Joe-Schmeaux Feb 06 '23
Yeah I think most people in this thread who are hard-set against it are defining a furry as someone who is sexually attracted to animals. Maybe there are levels of furry, I haven't really looked into it, but it's been fascinating to read how divisive this is.
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u/Tensor3 Feb 06 '23
Everyone here is talking about going to conventions, wearing a fursuit, wearing ears/tails, acting like an animal, etc.
The only furries I've met do zero of those things. Most don't.
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u/matchalibrarian Feb 06 '23
Correct, I think you’re right. I used to think that also, but I watched a documentary (crazy, I know) on furries and it really changed my view on them. There are definite levels to the whole thing. I’m no expert, but it’s not a “they all wanna smash animals” thing.
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u/Elipsyclips Feb 06 '23
And me being around some group of them, they would actively shun you if you express a sexual desire for animals
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Feb 06 '23
Is this something they dress up as for a hobby or do they identify with the animal? I'm not a furry but I think tails, ears, and collars can be cute. I guess it depends on how much a like the guy.
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u/Rick-476 Feb 06 '23
It's more subtle than that. My brother is a furry and grew thinking that sort of thing is normal. It's more like they have an alternate persona they create and pretend being with other likeminded people. Some do have suits and costumes, but the majority don't really.
Most I've met tend to keep it to themselves among the normies (everyone is a normie when you're a furry). If you go asking them about it then they'd tell you I'm sure. And just like all things, if you go digging for dirt you're going to find dirt.
Unfortunately, most don't think 'quiet person that likely works in IT' when the term furry comes up. It's always the worst, loudest, and most extreme stories that people think of because people are more likely to remember those stories over the reality.
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Well that doesn't seem so bad at all... I wouldn't have a problem with someone needing to create an alter ego at times to express themselves or escape.
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u/Rick-476 Feb 06 '23
That's a great way of putting it. It is a form of escapism.
And at the fandom level, it's no different than being into anime and going to ComicCon or into video games and going to E3. There are even cosplayers in those communities too, but not everyone is a cosplayer.
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u/gettingby72 Feb 06 '23
I could be wrong here…but I believe when they dress up they identify as that animal at that time 🤷♀️ like Halloween you don’t go around acting like what you dress up as (well I don’t and the people I’m around don’t) when furries do that’s who they are
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u/Im_just_existin Feb 06 '23
I'm a furry. The only thing all furries have in common is their like for anthropomorphic animals. I'm a furry because I think they're cute. Most furries don't even have fursuits because of how expensive they are. The majority does not identify as animals, they just like them.
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u/EllieIsDone Feb 06 '23
I mean, as long as they’re a normal person, I don’t see why not. Most of them are normal people that just dress up in costumes. Like cosplayers.
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u/lilmantha17 Feb 06 '23
Probably! I think it takes a lot of creativity and dedication to be a furry. I’m a very creative person myself so I’m sure we’d end up doing a lot of creative stuff together! Now if it were a sexual thing for them then I couldn’t.
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u/LabraBell Feb 06 '23
Furries get the same chances as anyone else when it comes to dating. Y'know, because I'm not going to discriminate people based on what they like to do in their free time.
Being a furry doesn't mean sexual attraction to animals and most of y'all need to realise that.
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u/Hay_Blinken Feb 06 '23
Not wanting to date someone isn't discrimination. Why force compatibility with someone who doesn't have the same interests or outlooks on things? And when it comes to who I choose to allow in my life, especially romantically, what they do in their free time will factor in.
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u/BBQBaconBurger Feb 06 '23
“I’m not going to discriminate people based on what they like to do in their free time.”
Really? There’s absolutely nothing that if someone told you they were into such and such an activity, that would be an immediate turnoff or red flag for you?
“I train with a militia on the weekend, just in case civil war starts and we need to overthrow the government.” Would that person get a date?
I’m not equating that with being a furry, it’s totally different. But the point is, people usually are (and should be) discriminatory to some degree when choosing who to date. Not drawing the line at furries is fine, but I bet a line gets drawn at some point.
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u/tattlerat Feb 06 '23
The overly verbose "I don't judge others!" types are, in my experience, some of the most judgemental people around. They just keep it inside and pray others aren't judging them the way they judge others.
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u/babypowder617 Feb 06 '23
Depends on their behavior and openness to other things. I like edm festivals. We can share each other's hobbies. Not asking you to be a Kandi kid but to attend with an open mind. As long as you don't expect me to rock a fur suit I'd be down to try a con. If we still don't feel each other's things then we have our own adventures and that's ok too.
If they were closed minded to trying and being open to trying or sharing then I'd be out. I guess that goes for anyone furry or not
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u/SolmarCurtiss1 Feb 06 '23
Sure, we all got our kinks, if thats the biggest adjustent id have to make we'd be lucky
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u/DMRexy Feb 06 '23
ITT: people that have barely the slightest idea of what being a furry means saying with absolute confidence they wouldn't date furries ever.
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u/redbombs Feb 06 '23
Nah because I have enough mental baggage and if you identify yourself as a furry it's probably a big part of your life and I don't care for it. But I don't hate them and wish them well
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u/Due-Presentation3279 Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23
I don't care. My friend is a furry. Doesn't change my opinion of my friend
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u/wolverinehunter002 Feb 06 '23
Im probably hairier than they are so why would I be judging? chewbacca noises
Just so long as they shower and dont make it their entire personality.
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u/Autunite Feb 06 '23
I'll chip in. Yes, it's an easy way to find and meet people who are scientists, engineers, and other academics or are into academics (my personal preference).
Open up a dating app, most of the people you find on there are oh so very dull. Their hobbies are often travel, netflix, and eating out.
Now on the other hand, go to a furry convention, go to a panel dedicated to a hobby you're into, say hacking. At that panel you'll find somewhere between 30-100 people, of all sexes and genders who are either into hacking and/or work in the field of hacking. It's a place to learn about hacking, meet people who like hacking, and meet their FRIENDS who like hacking. Make some friends, if you have a good personality, and are kind, often your friends will help you find people to date. But this cuts both ways, furries don't tolerate assholes, and since everyone in those communities is so interconnected, assholes are quickly outed and excluded from most spaces.
Chances are dear reader, that you might be friends with, work with, or are related to some furries. They probably have interesting inner lives where they do nerdy things like paint mini-figurines or program robots, or draw beautiful art. They just don't tell you because they're afraid that you're going to make fun of them, for their nerdy hobbies. This is not even mentioning being a furry, but to them, being a furry is probably a way to meet other's who like similar nerdy hobbies and can enjoy said hobbies without having to worry about some asshole making fun of them.
Ok, still with me Dear Reader? Let's talk about the elephant in the room. Sex, and fursuits. Let's start with the fursuits. Fursuits Dear Reader are often custom made works of art that cost more than several top of the line PC's put together (If you find a good quality fursuit for under 2000 USD, you found a very rare deal). Most furries don't own fursuits, most furries who do own fursuits don't screw in them, they take a lot of work to maintain and clean. Those who do, often have a separate suit just for that that they meticulously wash. And they don't wear those where it would be obscene to wear in public, laws still apply.
As for sex, assuming that being a furry is a sex thing erases all of the Ace/Aro people that find the community a safe haven. And it also erases the majority of furries that join to have a community of other nerdy fun people to hang out with. Well organized conventions have strict rules about what is allowed outside of private spaces. Those who break those rules get swiftly suspended or banned. Might you see someone in latex after 10 pm? Maybe. But not during the day. Collars and cat ears are not inherently kink gear, it's just part of the costume. Furries find that those who are obsessed with equating everything with kink gear are often also upset about the green m&m thing. Not worth dealing with.
Second to last thing, compare a well organized fur con to a comicon, animeconvention or even a sporting event. You'll find that the people at furcons are often far more hygenic than the people at other events. Stanky people don't get hugs, nor do they get laid (if the person is into getting laid). Even people who are into 'musk', they don't want stank, they want someone who has freshly worked out.
Lastly, most furries don't give an eff if you would want to date them. Furries have standards. Whatever standards those may be for that person.
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u/exandnotex Feb 07 '23
I was married to a furry, and knew that going into the relationship. They didn't own a suit while we were together, but had started acquiring the equipment and materials to make one; unfortunately, having a kid put a damper on those plans. It never bothered me, because it was just part of who they are, and was rather endearing in its way. They had a great sense of humor about it too, and was the one aspect of themselves they could always joke about.
They also sent like a lot - as in A LOT - of furry porn to me when they were in the mood. Nothing horrible or questionable, just anthropomorphic characters indulging in our mutual kinks. It was real easy to know what was on their mind. The quantity, quality, and sheer variety of material they'd find was always surprising.
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u/Sliver-Knight9219 Feb 06 '23
No, i have no idea how i would explain that to the older members of my family.
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u/WanderingGenesis Feb 06 '23
I dont understand why people see it as weird. Most furries dont even own suits. Its just a part of who they are or what they like. And if my partner wants to wear a head bandnwith cat ears, an anal plug with a tail at the end, and meow a bit while we're intimate, who cares?
At the end of the day its between me and them.
Besides most furries are just out there playing WoW or FF14 so dating a furry is just having a friend you can eat pizza with that likes pets.
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u/Nonsenseinabag Feb 06 '23
Yeah, like I can get it not being something you get really into, but the revulsion some people have towards the fandom at large is weird to me. Like, sports have mascots and that's pretty normal, but the second someone says they want to be the mascot suddenly that's ick territory?
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u/MysterClark Feb 06 '23
Probably not if it was their whole personality and had nothing outside of that, but if it were just a hobby then I'd consider it.
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u/Annual_Rooster5678 Feb 06 '23
Maybe. Are they hot?
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u/Negafox Feb 06 '23
In college, there was an Asian woman that I was attracted to and tried asking out. She revealed she was a furry and invited me to attend an upcoming fursuit orgy with her. A prerequisite was that she only dates other furries. I thought about for a solid minute before turning her down lol.
This was like early 2000s.
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Feb 06 '23
She goes to furry orgies and so only wants to date other furries?
I mean hey, at least she isn't trying to drag other folks into it.
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u/gibletgun Feb 06 '23
And sweaty and musty and absolutely ripe from marinating in a jizz stained dog suit.
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u/Medic_Apple Feb 06 '23
Not hurting anyone. I'd help them make a suit. You could date worse than a furry
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u/brojustletmeinffs Feb 06 '23
Personally I like people who has passion/hobbies. So if the way she navigates her passion is compatible with how I navigate mine, yes defo. In short, being furry is not a deal breaker.
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u/TrickTails Feb 06 '23
Depends; being a furry is a spectrum. My boyfriend and mutual friend group make fun of me for being a furry because my identity revolves around things I like including foxes. Even though I just have a kitsune OC, play Ahri from League of Legends, and some fox merch rather than having furry interests like people higher on the spectrum.
On the other hand, some friends in the group are actually higher on the spectrum and have furry PFPs like art of Legoshi, Haida, or Rigby. They like furry things; one of which denies being a furry despite having furry games on Steam and preferring animal characters over human characters.
Then some mutual acquaintances are at the top. They have a fursona as their PFP that is their identity; its them. One that only I know has a whole community making fetish NSFW of their OC that my eyes was forced to see because I asked about their PFP.
I personally wouldn’t date furries that rank 3 like the acquaintances. I’m fine if furry stuff interests them; being a fursona at a convention (like how some cosplayers dress as their own characters) or liking animal characters more than human characters. In our home life, I don’t think I could handle any fursuit shenanigans or certain kinks though.
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u/Z3phirr Feb 06 '23
I agree with this, except for the last part about fursuits, idk why but oh my goodness they look so cool!! Idk fursuits to me aren’t a big deal, but anything related to sex no thanks, I’m asexual so it’s not that because you’re a furry I don’t want to smash, I don’t want to smash anyone lol
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u/PriorSecurity9784 Feb 06 '23
Probably not date, but would definitely have sex with one of the opportunity arose.
I’m all about new experiences
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u/SkinHunger55 Feb 06 '23
Depends on the type. Do you mean the ones who dress up in the suits, or just the ones who find Anthropomorphic characters to be attractive? Theres a very big difference.
If its the first one, then no. Never. I find those furry suits to be creepy, awkward, and cringy. I would never date anyone who wears one, because im not interested in that.
If its the second option, then i dont see why not. They are allowed to have their own fetish, as long as they keep it to themselves and dont expect me to take part in it if im not interested.
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u/tjwalkr3 Feb 06 '23
Yes, but I'm a furry, so I might be a bit biased.
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u/Sir_Lemondrop Feb 06 '23
If you actually are and that wasn’t sarcasm…. Can you please tell us reading these comments wtf it means to be a furry because I think we are confused as a group
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u/Nonsenseinabag Feb 06 '23
Furry is anyone who self-identifies as one. Usually they also show an interest in things which have anthropomorphic animals featured, such as Disney's Robin Hood, Zootopia, Bugs Bunny, and so on. A lot of furries are into the art and artists, some are into producing and listening to music, some enjoy puppetry, and famously some enjoy dressing up in costume. Like any group of humans that exist, some are also into specific kinds of adult artwork as well.
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u/marsliketheplanet7 Feb 06 '23
I’m surprised by the amount of replies saying ‘No im not into that’.
Personally I believe that just because someone enjoys something does not mean you have to engage with it to be in a relationship with them.
You don’t have to be into furries to be in a relationship with a furry and you don’t have to feel attracted to that element of who they are to like them as a person.
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Feb 06 '23
I was a furry for a lot of my childhood and as long as they wouldn't walk around the house or outside with me in a fursuit we would probably get along well.
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u/honiehopes Feb 06 '23
I wouldn’t mind it, it’s not like they’re in a fur suit all the times and I’m pretty sure being a furry isn’t all they have going on in life. Mainly for me personality is key.
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u/KimJongUf_ Feb 06 '23
How do I answer this if I'm not single
HYPOTHETICALLY I would. Never tried it, might as well. Could learn some things, and having an interesting partner would be fun.
UwU satanywatany put your howorrned cockywocky in my awss even thowough I'm a wesbian OwO
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u/Narguile Feb 06 '23
If I was attracted to the person first and foremost. The costume would require some in depth conversation.
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u/Mindless-Athlete2390 Feb 06 '23
No.
Why? Money they're likely to blow all the money on some fanart or a fursuit.
If they could restrain their spending habits then I'd consider it.
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u/To_Fight_The_Night Feb 06 '23
It depends on how much it shows in their life. If its just an at home thing in the bedroom...IDRC if its something they want. If they are talking with a "Meow" at a friends party...IDT I could do that, it would be too embarrassing.
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u/Wadsworth_McStumpy Feb 06 '23
Well, no, because I'm married.
Before that, probably not, because I've never met a furry who had decent hygiene. I've been to a few sci-fi and gaming conventions, and if I can smell you in that crowd, you really need to shower. I'm sure there are some clean furries around, but I've never met one. Also, they tend to be gay, and I'm not.
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u/VXMerlinXV Feb 06 '23
Probably not, I’d have a hard time not breaking character consistently. It’s a turn off for us both.
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u/DanielCoolDude1 Feb 06 '23
I have a friend who's a furry and it's not a sexual thing (for most people) it's just a hobby. People always misunderstand that.
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u/gaytransdragon Feb 06 '23
I'm not surprised that lots of people are saying no but it's still kinda weird to me. It doesn't affect their personality, it doesn't affect their appearance, you probably won't have to deal with it often if they're just an artist or a fan with no suit, and even if they did have a suit it's not like they'll wear it all the time. Lots of people said that they're not into that without realizing that one: you can be an asexual furry, and two: even if they are sexual it's extremely unlikely that they'll try to make it a part of their sex life unless you state that you'd be interested (you know, like how the average person handles kinks) no one seems to have an actual reason to not want to date a furry.
And yes I would, I'm already dating one.
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u/Jayce_T Feb 06 '23
From what I know most of them just like the art and don't do anything more than enjoy that, whether it's SFW or NSFW. Fursuiters are rarer (a friend of mine is one and he told me that thing cost him like $3000, so fair enough) and even rarer are those who do anything kinky with it.
I think it's more than likely if I dated anyone who was a furry it would just turn out that they have a fursona and like to draw or get that character drawn. Which is cool, it's not like it'll affect me.
Really though I think it's going to just be 99% communication like any relationship.
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u/Phoenix042 Feb 06 '23
I'm assuming you are specifically referring to the sexual kink version?
I'm pretty open to weird fetishes and such so yea, sure. Not my cup of tea but I'll play along with most things my partner is into.
Most furries aren't that focused on any particularly sexual element though. For a lot of them it's more like a hobby or social thing, like D&D or any other sort of "convention" culture.
I want to be with someone whose interests are compatible with mine, so this one is actually slightly more difficult than the sex one. The sex one is just a weird bedroom request, w/e idc. The hobby / convention part will affect my life, free time, and social circle much more.
Still probably yes if they are otherwise amazing, but I'd have to see how I actually felt after going to some events or spending time around the social groups or w/e. I'd honestly be pretty willing to get into all sorts of strange human subculture bs for the right person. My interests are flexible.
Just another adventure to me.
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u/dragonwinghm Feb 06 '23
In general yes. Most furries I've known have been chill and it's just a hobby or interest of theirs. I don't really find it weird, since I also like costuming, drawing, and learning about animals. My only objection is if they wanted me to participate in a type of roleplay or fetish I wasn't into, but that's true for any relationship really.
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u/DieHeiligeKiwi Feb 06 '23
Depends how far the furry thing goes. If you put your furrysuit on to go to a convention, have fun etc I don't care, I would even maybe accompany you when I don't have to waer a furrsuit. I think thats just like me doing Larp. Some dress in furrsuits others in medieval clothing to have fun. Nothing wrong with that.
But if you like to wear the furrsuit around the house or even in a romantic setting thats just creepy. Cute cat ears and tail? Yes. But these full body furrsuits would creep me out...
Tldr: yes, but it depends how far she takes it
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u/kelowana Feb 06 '23
Furry or not? If I like that person I would absolutely date them! I’m no furry myself and certain suits/masks can really freak me out, but it’s their thing, not mine. Just because I date someone or having an relationship with, does that not mean we have to share every single moment or event together.
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u/jewelsisnotonfire Feb 06 '23
It’s not a romantic preference of mine. However, if my partner decides to become one after the relationship is well under way, it’s not something I’d dump them over.
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u/MasterKaen Feb 06 '23
I'm not a furry, but fetish fulfillment is hot. As long as they keep it in the bedroom and aren't annoying about it, I don't have a problem with it.
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u/AwareReplacement4509 Feb 06 '23
No, not because I find it weird, but it’s something I can’t personally relate to. Being a furry is EXPENSIVE and it involves a lot of space being taken up (My friend is a furry).
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u/Cherrythefatbitch Feb 06 '23
The community is really nice. And plus it's usually a coping mechanism for a lot of furries. I'd be a bit more hesitant to go out with a therian, though they're nice too!
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u/Creme_Small Feb 07 '23
No, because as a 14th level half-elf wizard I just don't think we'd have enough in common.
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u/Tomae002 Feb 07 '23
I’ll give it a shot. if the person I’m dating admit that they are a furry, I wouldn’t really give a damn I’ll be cool with whatever they’re into. However, if they started acting more like an actual animal we might have some issues.
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u/DoubleLigero85 Feb 07 '23
I would absolutely rail one into next week.
It's not my kink. Building a life around a partner that was into that would be tough.
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u/holyquiznakanotaku Feb 07 '23
To me they're still the same person, they're just a furry. They don't intrude on other people's lives and just enjoy talking with other people who are like them. As long as they're a good person I don't see why I would flat out say no
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u/ChangeChameleon Feb 07 '23
Yes. I am a furry, and I am dating one.
Would you date someone who was into Lego? Most people would say yes and not think anything of it.
What if Lego was their entire personality, and they had Lego models on every shelf, spent their free time designing new builds, went to the Lego store on the weekends, and conventions twice a year to see all the cool Lego models.
That might give you pause.
The same could be said for movie buffs, extreme sports hobbyists, role players, gamers, or any other hobby that’s out there.
Furries are just regular people who have a hobby. If that hobby is something you can enjoy together with your partner, even better. And some people may be more enthusiastic about their hobbies than you’re comfortable with. But that doesn’t make the hobby inherently bad.
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u/Own-Firefighter5772 Feb 07 '23
Yeah if I really liked her and being a furry wasn’t a huge part of her life and that was all she talked about. Her hobbies are her hobbies and if I’m not into them it’s not a big deal.
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u/Youropinionisvalid Feb 07 '23
I am one so yeah. Don’t care if they aren’t one either as long as they don’t find it weird.
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u/Dejoboracho Feb 06 '23
No, it’s just not something I find attractive